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Words are worthless by themselves. Words alone are not evidence of change. Words alone are not evidence of someone's character. To judge, trust, build a relationship on words alone is foolish.

Actions do not require words. Actions are concrete and can be observed. Actions are evidence of change or a lack thereof. Actions are not the whole story, but they do reflect a person's character. Actions show something that can be believed.

When words and actions do not match, actions are what should be believed. When words and actions do not match, actions show more than stated intent.

When words and actions match, then the words can carry some weight.

A boundary is not to control another person. A boundary is not an ultimatum. A boundary, once stated, is just a communication of what someone is willing to accept.

A boundary, once violated, can only be held by leaving.

A boundary respected means a boundary not violated.

A relationship can only work when words match actions. When promises are kept. When boundaries are respected. When your partner is respected. When you are respected. Where accountability is present. Where love is present.

Love is not just a feeling. Love is a verb. It is shown through action. Love is not good sex. Love is not lashing out at every disappointment or disagreement. Love is not intentionally trying to hurt someone back when they cross a line that was never set. Love is not pressure. Love is not lies to prevent them from leaving. Love is not lies to avoid accountability.

Accountability is recognizing the error. Accountability is recognizing the way the error impacted the person. Accountability is committing to yourself and that person that it will not happen again. Accountability is making sure that it doesn't happen again, not in the original form and not with a remix.

A feeling of love is not enough to sustain a relationship. Recognizing the error is not accountability. Retroactive boundaries applied to past actions is not holding a boundary. Refusing to discuss the past is not growth. Leaving when a boundary is violated is not a lack of love. Self respect is not a lack of love.

Forever cannot be forever if it is forever awful.