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kitty_liya

Title: How do I actually get my gym crush? (Never had a boyfriend before)

I'm 20F (turning 21 in September), and I've never had a boyfriend or been in a relationship before.

The only place I really go regularly is my gym, and recently I've started noticing this guy. I find him really attractive, and honestly, I want to get to know him and see if there's a chance something could happen.

The problem is... I have absolutely no idea what I'm doing.

We've never had a proper conversation. We've only been coming around the same time for the past couple of days, so I don't even know if we'll keep seeing each other regularly.

I'm also someone who's pretty ambitious. When I want something, I usually figure out a way to make it happen. But dating has been the one area where I've completely failed. I've never even had a boyfriend, and I don't want to spend my life just silently crushing on people and doing nothing.

So I need real advice.

If you were in my position, how would you approach this?

How do I start talking to him without making it weird?

How do I know if he's interested?

What are things that actually work when you're trying to get to know someone at the gym?

For people who successfully dated their gym crush... what did you do?

And for the guys: if a girl thought you were attractive and wanted to get to know you at the gym, what would make you interested instead of uncomfortable?

I'm looking for genuine advice from people with real experience. Success stories, failures, anything. I want to hear what actually works.

Posted Jul 30, 2026, 2:15 PM UTC

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