Importance of emotional quotient in relationship

I swear to god why do most men in the relationship lack basic emotional quotient, every guy I dated in my past were so emotionally stupid even begging them to share why they are upset was like a huge deal and whenever I vented to them they blamed the entire bad day they had on me like who tf am I supposed to open up to if not you why the hell are we together, some men just want to have fun and have a stable relationship with a woman that has no opinion of their own and is always happy go lucky, Im really shocked to see that men in all age groups lack this one particular thing which is very frustrating. Like why