Struggles with stretchy wraps

Hello all, first time dad here to a 4 week old.

I have wanted to baby wear since before the birth, and I have a boba wrap, but at this point I have had no success. I have a few frustrations with the process and trying to figure out if I am going wrong somewhere/looking for advice.

1. when do you all baby wear? Right now her whole schedule in life is sleep, wake to eat, maybe 10 min tummy time, poop, and more sleep. She does contact nap a fair amount. But like, when are you all wearing your newborns so that they are happy? I have tried putting her in when she is sleepy, and she gets mad and hates it. I tried putting her in when cranky hoping to soothe her, nope absolutely not. I have tried when she is content and looking around, also a nope. I know it's possible she just doesn't want to be worn, I just would really love to and I can't figure it out.

2. How do you get a wrap on quickly/efficiently enough to actually make a wear happen when baby is in the *right* mood (see above). oh my gosh, it takes me FOREVER to put on the damn boba wrap, and I get it wrong or not well fitting like all the time. This contributes to angry baby and then I give up.

3. I am constantly struggling to have the first wrap around my chest stay tight enough to support her. It sags immediately.

Any tips? Sorry if this is unclear and I haven't gotten a photo for a fit check because she just hates it every time :(. She is generally sort of a fussy baby and I was hoping this would help?