My 3 yo is a monster for me and so well behaved for my mom (anyone other than me).

what am I doing wrong?

im traveling visiting my parents with my kids now. hes a monster for bedtime and wont get into bed andfree being so well mannered and cooperative for her while i was out for a one on one day with my daughter.

tonight he was so loud just screaming crying hitting (definitely overtired ) and she would come close the door says my the screaming was disturbing my dad . then told my son to apologize for all the screaming because it bothered my dad. my mom told my son. it to do it again (but if he’s disregulated that would happen again)

can an overtired 3yo actually control their loud behavior?? because I certainly tried but at that point he runs screams etc etc and cant be reasoned with.

bedtime took me over 3 hours to get him settled

what do you think?