No communication over trash duty?

Hii. I live with other 5 roommates, but 3 of them went home so it's just us 3, and 2 for people at home all the time. Recently there's been issue around trash duty.

For context, my trash duty is on Friday and normally we take out trash daily. But I didn't notice the trash since I've been wrapped around my uni work and I didn't know I'm supposed to take out trash other than Friday. If my roommate asked me to throw it out, I'd be more willing to do it but it's been radio silent (I wasn't saying I purposely ignored my trash duty, I'm just saying I didn't know I'm supposed to take out trash other than the designated Fridays. I'm autistic if that explain). I only realized I should be doing that when they started going passive aggressive in group chat and hinting at me for not knowing how to take out trash and that she purposely ignored it to see if I pick it up (again, there were really no communication about it, no one told me directly that I should be doing that other than Fridays because it's common sense).

After they went passive aggressive, I started picking up trash daily to throw it out regardless if they're full or not because I don't understand if they want it thrown daily or every 2 - 3 days, so I just follow the daily trash routine. However today when I threw some scraps, the trash bag I tied to throw out in the morning was opened. Apparently the trash wasn't 'full enough' to be thrown out. I'm pretty sure they going to go passive aggressive again about it in group chat instead to my face (this wasn't the first time they acted this way, ever inconvenience got blown in group chat instead of direct communication and hoping the designated person they're targeting understand it).

I really don't know how to approach and ask them to just communicate directly and tell me what to do because I'm really struggling understanding their schedule and what type of cleaning they want me to do. A lot of the house rules were pretty vague too like it's supposed to be common sense.

Posted Aug 1, 2026, 4:00 AM UTC

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