What’s the secret to learning how to Fly?

I’m pretty new overall to the Battlefield series, I played a bit of 2042 and that’s it. I’m currently around level 30 on BF6 and every time I go into a custom match to try flying a Heli (or jet but mostly heli) I cannot get it down for nothing. Ive tried KBM and controller, I’ve tried redoing my keybinds and controller binds, changing the settings recommended by other posts and youtube videos, and still flying just feels so shitty and doesn’t work well for me. I know that it’s something that’s just going to take time to get good at, but is there no way to make the controls feel reactive and fluid? Am I missing something crucial about flying or does it feel like shit for everyone and everyone just sucks it up? I’ll take any advice I can get.