Spoilers title- My opinion on John and Claire

My opinion about the lord John/ Claire marriage- first of all they were both grieving Jamie but I don't think John should have gone to Claire when she was in that emotional state, she was contemplating suicide, she didn't really know what was happening. However, i think it helped Claire, it was a way of being with Jamie one last time and i think it helped her through some of her grief. John was also grieving Jamie and it was probably something they both needed, not that I think it should have happened.

I don't think anyone would react well to finding out their best friend slept with their wife to be honest. The reason Jamie reacted so violently the way he did was because John trigged Jamie's ptsd, we saw him do that in the past at Ardsmuir prison, when he said " we were both f...... you". That was a line John was never supposed to cross. It was because John used Claire, the person Jamie loves most, as a way to be with him. That's why it was so hard for him to let it go. It's like Jamie said in season 8 episode 9 " it felt like a betrayal of our friendship".

As for why he was upset with Claire for it he said he was afraid she thought about John in their bed, that was what he was struggling with for Claire's side of it but Claire reassured him she didn't and then he seemed to let of his anger towards her.

Honestly the whole thing would gone alot better if John had just let Claire tell Jamie about it, Jamie would have taken it better from her and she could have helped him understand it better.

He did eventually forgive John but that's why it took him to long to let it go. I'm not saying John and Claire were wrong exactly, I wish it hadn't happened but it took Jamie a while to work through his anger at both John and Claire and his feelings of betrayal but he did work through it. Just my opinion.