Why is it that every time i join a game the settings are sooo bad and the lobby is full but when im host everyone leaves and doesnt join at all???????

Every single lobby i join has the worst settings ive seen.
60/10 for angel and even the scientist duration is five seconds. FIVE SECONDS TO LOOK AT VITALS and people eat it up.

But when host leaves and im host everyone dips amd im alone. And i never even changed the settings.

And when ppl DO join they immediately leave. Ive tried talking in chat
Standing still
Running around
Changing my fit
All to prove im not afk or some bot but no everyone keaves and never stays im so tired if these ass settings but nobody ever wants to stay in my games