Petition for a new HEA tag: “There is light after the shitstorm”

I've read a bunch of discussions here about what actually counts as HEA and honestly... I'm still confused. In Secrets and Masks,>!they're technically together and happy, but they're also dead, so... there's that. Most readers don't consider it a HEA. !<At the same time, I can imagine endings where they are alive and together, but their life is so miserable, that calling it ''HEA" would be laughable. There's a massive grey area between "married in the manor with three children and no remaining trauma" and "everyone is dead and the reader unlocks a bunch of new traume".

I don't want to restart the whole "what is HEA" discussion, sorry.

My actual problem is that I'm apparently a little old-fashioned. I like suspense. My sister reads the last page of her books first, and I still consider this deeply unhinged behavior (I love her tho).

But I keep getting the comments on my WIP asking, "is this HEA?", and I genuinely don't know how to answer without giving away more than I want to.

From what I understand (and pls correct me if I'm wrong) most readers aren't necessarily demanding a prefect ending. They just want to know whether there will be some kind of emotional payoff after suffering for hundreds of thousands of words.

I've already confirmed that D and H will survive. But I've also warned everyone, that I'm going to drag them through mud and several layers of hell before the end.

So how do I reassure readers, that the ending won't completely break their hearts into a million pieces?

Is there a "there is light after the shitstorm, but I'm not telling you what that light looks like" tag? You know, some middle ground between the conventional HEA and a tragedy.

Disclaimer: I'm not secretly revealig my ending through this post. I genuinely struggle to categorize it myself. I can imagine much happier outcomes, but i also defintely wouldn't call it a tragedy.