My boyfriend hates my dogs

I’ve been dating my boyfriend for about 2 years now. I am 31/F and he is 48/M and has never had dogs before. We were long distance for a while and mostly living in my apartment in CA. I recently moved from NorCal to Austin to be with him and brought my two doxons. When we started dating he made it seem like he liked animals and wanted a dog (and farm down the road…). He even told me we could get a farm one day which is one of the main reasons I pursued the relationship. For context my dogs and I used to live on a 124 acre ranch and then left my ex and ranch, got a divorce and moved in with my parents where they were living on a vineyard. Needless to say they have always had a lot of room to roam and are farm dogs. Since moving in with my boyfriend to his house with a tiny yard and much stricter rules and boundaries, my dogs have been misbehaving and not wanting to go outside. I will admit they are a handful and my older wiener dog has been pottying in the house. She hates going outside in Austin because it’s so hot and doesn’t love the walks. My teacup wiener also has a barking problem and barks at big dogs when walking. My bf decided my dogs needed more discipline and has recently started shocking them with a dog collar and enclosing my wiener dog in some makeshift fencing. I suggested a dog crate as that worked in the past for training but he doesn’t want too much dog stuff in his living room. I also just left him with the dogs because my dad who is 86 just had a major surgery and I went home to care for him. Tonight I asked my bf how things were going at the house and he said he’s really annoyed with the dogs and it’s just not what he signed up for and he doesn’t want my dogs taking over his life and the “bottom floor” of his house. I understand being mad about the pottying inside but he also has a problem with “toys all over the floor” (they have three toys) and their blankets and just the overall adjustment to living with dogs. He stated this is getting to be “too much” and he “didn’t sign up for this”. Meanwhile my bf has two teenage kids and his ex wife lives 3 miles away and we moved here for him. I’m starting to wonder if this is a compatibility thing or I need to just train my dogs more. He also never pets my dogs or is nice to them, I’m starting to feel like he doesn’t like me or my dogs and finds us to be too much work. Maybe I should leave before his kids move in with us next month? and once I find a job I’ll be out of the house a lot more and he works from home and works like 4 hours a day. What does everyone think? Is it me and my dogs or him being unreasonable? I’m a little scared he’s torturing my dogs. We also made a promise we weren’t going to fight anymore and he states I have a bad temper. I’m just personally not used to being with a man that insults me and hurts my feelings constantly and then wonders why I get mad. I’ve also never been with someone who doesn’t like animals.

**TL;DR;** : My boyfriend of two years hates my dogs. Is this going the right way?

Posted Aug 3, 2026, 10:53 AM UTC · locked

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