Hello everyone,

Helping others gives my life a lot meaning and depth. The fact that I achieve a high rate of success is even more satisfying, and there is nothing better than seeing a person that I helped smile more and become a happier, fuller person. It is precisely why I find myself comfortable taking a role as guide or healer.

I also spend a lot of time learning about others and I often observe people that need help and I also observe the folks that want to help... Those that step in to try and help others. However, most people who offer help, utilize outdated worldviews or problematic religious texts as a guide to help others. These solutions often make the other person feel shame, feel small or exacerbates the negative feelings that they already feel. Then other people simply come up with their own problematic or toxic solutions, they live their lives thinking these untested solutions are helpful, then one day they test these out for the first time and when it doesn't work, they simply say: "They didn't want to put in the effort from their side". Never realizing it is because they didn't think about their ideas in depth or the fact that they haven't consistently applied their solution successfully before and don't care if their healing practices are shown to be problematic.

I first started trying to be a healing force for others in 2020. I decided to learn about and test a lot of healing ideas on the people around me that needed help. Luckily I have a natural talent that makes me see what affects people and how. I pick up on very subtle cues and adjust my technique as needed. I can see negative and positive reactions rather easily, even when people attempt to hide their feelings. 

I will submit a post in the near future explaining more of my healing practices again, like I have in the past, but for now, let's answer the question posed in the title... So then why do I hardly accept help from others? Well often times they have good intentions but their methods or techniques are lacking. I don't see people with problematic healing practices as bad people necessarily, however, it is important to acknowledge that grifters and scammers exist, but I do recognize that the help folks offer isn't trying to be intentionally harmful, but many times it isn't helpful to real world individuals either. They might reference a bible verse that seems similar to the person's situation, but reality has a strange way of giving similar circumstances to people, who require unique solutions that only work on specific people or environments...

I hardly accept help from others, because healing is a complex endeavor. Unique solutions need to be tailored to unique individuals. Ideas need to be criticized from within and externally by other people. To help others takes enormous dedication and understanding. The kind of dedication and understanding that only a few individuals seem capable of maintaining long term. Over time I am confident more and more people will learn the deeper truths of helping others. I am hoping that discussions like these become popular online. I hope to soon have a collective of highly dedicated individuals who understands the intricacies of psychological healing and then one day they hone their skills. It would be nice to have so many people to pick from to have some support, for me as well as for others, but for now, I know I need to be the one that goes out there to help others. It's what the world needs from me right now.

Why am I always willing to help, but I hardly ever accept help for myself...