Married and need advice!

M23 first time posting on here but I figured I may get some good advice. Last night my wife and I were having sex. The spontaneous kind that just makes it even more hot and erotic. I asked her halfway through if she wanted to cum and she said no. The reason being the only way I can make her cum is by eating her out. I’ve been able to do it for years but she takes medication for anxiety so it just sometimes takes a really long time.

I was wondering if there were any experienced people out there that could give a married man some advice on other ways to make her cum that don’t involve oral? She said rubbing her clit “doesn’t feel like anything” or sometimes hurts because her clit isn’t wet which makes sense. She likes fingering but she always stops me right when it sounds like it feels good.

I’m open to advice to talk about things to improve either my performance or ways to work around her lack of stimulation due to anxiety.