Having kids you weren't in a position to have ruins your life

I don't have kids personally, but my friend does , I remember coming to the us in 2017 and seeing a kid in a stroller, they said it was just babysitting but eventually I knew they were lying and then in 2018 (how the hell do you already have another one??) , I came back again and saw another one , they said the same thing but I already knew they were lying . I already didn't want kids but man seeing how kids can fuck up your life especially when you're in a position where you shouldn't have them really opened my eyes . At this point the kids are not only her problem but everyone's problem since she didn't even have an income , but now that she found a job , she always has to burden someone to watch her kids , but it's the US so barely anyone has time unfortunately and her house is soooo chaotic man , let's just say the owner doesn't want her there anymore, if the kids weren't there she would have been thrown out already and the whole situation is fucking up their family in my eyes , man I only feel bad for the kids honestly because 1 is a mistake but 2? At this point I don't even know , I love my friend but she could really have made better choices I wonder what the future is holding for them , hopefully it gets better.

Honestly this is just motivation for me to lock in and I hope my future self isn't dumb enough to pop up a kid just thinking about it is making me scared😭