Advice for a baby free wedding as a FTM

Hi everyone!

So long story short my best family friend is getting married next summer. We have known each other since we have been 2 years old and practically lived at each other’s place growing up right next door to each other. 4 years ago I moved 10 hours away to be with my now husband. Her wedding is in our home town + 1 hour because it is in a farm field in the nearby village.

I had my baby shower recently where she drove 10+ hours to come and I was very grateful and happy to see her. Then near the end of the night she told me that her wedding will be child free. I was a little shocked at first because I just assumed that us being so close meant that my baby would be allowed, but I have no issue with child free weddings at all. In fact, my wedding was child free (excluding family), so I totally understand.. also a farm is probably not the best place for a kid for 6+ hours.

So I started to think of some ideas for child care. Also, I am the maid of honour (this is a whole other story in itself…. lol) and the baby will be 9-10 months at the time of the wedding.

I started off with:
“Ok, my husband will drive down with me and watch him for the wedding”

She came back with:
“No, your husband has to come he’s invited”

I then said:
“Ok then my parents will watch the baby (they still live in our hometown)”

Friend:
“No!! Your parents are invited obviously they are like family to me!!!”

She then proceeded to tell me to hire a babysitter or have my parents-in-law drive 10 hours, rent a hotel in a random small town just to babysit for the wedding.

At this point am I in the wrong for being a little annoyed? I offered 2 different options and she turned them both down. I plan on EBF and also don’t feel comfortable leaving my baby 10+ hours away for a weekend. Idk how I’m going to be able to fulfill my maid of honour duties for 12+ hours and also be a mom. It is a huge source of anxiety for me and I just don’t want to let my friend down as she really does deserve the best wedding ever, I just don’t think she’s being realistic.

Anyone been in this situation? Or have any advice?

Thank you in advance ❤️