Is this Sexual Assault or is It selfishness

Hi, I'm F30 and my Husband is 33. I had a procedure done last year and according to my gynae my vaginal opening needs to be strengthened and she recently prescribed me an estrogen cream.

Prior to this appointment my husband would ask for sex and I feel dread knowing I'm going to be in pain and if I say no to sex he will be angry and ignore me. If he masturbates he becomes moody and ignores me and if you ask him what's wrong he will say nothing but you can feel when he is withdrawing affection.

Anyway I agreed to penetration 3 separate times and each time I tore my vaginal opening and he kept on saying sorry sorry. Whilst continuing for another 30 minutes saying i'm getting close sorry. I had to lay there and feel the pain prying for him to finish.

He says he didn't know it hurt that much. Since then I curl up if he even tries to touch me. You can also feel when he is calculating my days of my period. I have been avoiding sex with him even prior to the procedure because I was also suffering pain that cause me to get the surgery done and he would also pressure me into sex. It almost feels like a chore because he doesn't know how to do foreplay at all he will kiss you maybe 3 times and straight. to penetration. He said lick women because women's vaginas smell when we were dating even though I shower twice a day then I told him I'd never go down on him again and after that he retracted his statement now he is always pressuring me to let him lick me and I don't want it because pf what he said and it makes me self conscious.

is this assault and sexual coercion caused chatgpt is saying that but i thought he is just selfish. i do intend to leave but i'm in school and unemployed so i'm still stuck for a little bit but for now for the next two years i'm stuck with this.