Am i being used for money?

My (M33) gf (F36) and i have been dating for a few years. We were close friends a few years before that too. We were basically the will they wont they friends for years.

She helped me get out of my shell, i helped her put better focus in her life. We ended up buying a house together last year when we found a really good deal on a house.

Since then it’s like her demeanor has changed. Has made less efforts in working on our relationship when we’ve had issues. Honestly has expected me, to take more of a financial role in her life. Dont get me wrong, she pays her half in everything, sometimes randomly buys me clothes with her money, etc.

She’s never expected me to pay anything when we go out. I pay my half, im glad to pay for dinner when we go out, etc.

We both make good money. I work in tech and make over 150k a year she works in medicine and makes about 120k a year. Her career she basically has capped off, while im still considered a mid-level in my career and have a chance to make much more money as i progress.

I spent my adult life investing saving for retirement, etc. she didnt really start till around the time we started to date. So i know she feels a bit disappointed in how little she has saved.

Ive heard her made comments, somewhat in jest but somewhat feels like she really wants this, where she says “i just want a man who gives me their retirement”. I mostly took it in jest. One day i was giving her advice on saving and she kind of didnt like what i was saying and basically said “well thats my money and not your concern” so i said “cool”. Few days later we were talking about investing and she was praising me for being so conscience about it. I told her that my goal was always to try and retire early or have a less mentally stressful job toespecially if i never had kids. And she was livid. Said “what about me? That money is ours”. I told her “well like you said my money is not your concern and id be happy to share that with whoever i am with at the time but you gotta put in your pot too. Not expect me to put in my pot and expect me to give you half”.

I work remote. So when we go to new countries she’s always saying how we should just live in a 3rd world country and live like kings. I grew up in a 3rd world country, i understand how much of a hussle culture it can beand how poor infrastructure is in many of these countries and i have little interest in doing that. She gets mad whenever i say no, but then when i ask “well what would you be working on?” She has no response.

We’ve had some recent issues pop up that honestly have put a bad strain in our relationship. It was a big fight over lack of respect i was feeling from her. My GF is a “throw it under the rug” type of person. I am not. So since the fight last month all she talks about is buying our next house, me buying her a new car, etc. she does not take care of her car. Takes it to the shop every 12-18 months. Im surprised the car hasnt broekn down yet. And she tells me how i can get her a new car and it wont even be a dent to me. And i tell her thats not the point. Ive also told her that i have little interest in buying another house with her due to our issues. She mentioned that if we did get another house it basically would deplete her savings putting half. So now im feeling like this relstionship is mostly for financial upside for her.

Maybe due to our recent issues im blowing it up but im just having a gut feeling