Am I overreacting? Somebody please help me understand why my wife is so forgetful/unorganised…

Hi guys, please excuse my grammar. English is my native language but I always sucked at English classes.

I (31M) have been with my wife (29F) for 5 years, married for 1. Ever since we’ve been together, she has always been the type that isn’t detailed oriented and super forgetful. To be fair, I am INCREDIBLY structured do things to the T! (I am a capricorn after all haha). I have learnt to be more flexible and spontaneous with her but, there are still some pet peeves that drive me crazy.

Don‘t get me wrong, I love her so much but these small things just irritate me so much. For one instance, she left her iphone at the airport toilet and only realised she didn’t have her phone when we were already on the plane. LUCKILY it was brought to the information counter where we had lovely air hostesses pick it up for us. Since then, she has not learned her lesson and continues to forget her phone at home. She loses things all the time every time we go on overseas trips - she always loses something small, such as souvenirs she buys, neck pillows, bottles. etc. I am thankful it’s nothing valuable though.

Other instances, I ask if she can buy me some donuts or snacks on the way home from work. If I don’t constantly remind her, she forgets. I never asks if she wants something but, she’s always on my mind and I always buy her food when im out, but hey, I understand that’s my love language and not hers. I don’t get upset that she doesn’t think to buy me things, I get upset because DESPITE me already asking and reminding her, she forgets sometimes.

Many times too, as we don’t have the same days off, my workplace is more flexible to take days off - so I tend to plan my days off around her. She forgets or wrongly recalls her days off then i end up planning the wrong days off and eventually we don’t get to spend our days off together. This literally just happened yesterday and now I’m writing this post lol.

Somebody please help me understand… We have consistently communicated this and she tries to get better but sometimes things still end up the same. Or somebody please help me understand the mindset of people like this… it can get very frustrating. Or am I just overreaciting? Am I too uptight?

Let me know your thoughts and or any advice.