Was I too controlling? Was I right to be suspicious?

When we first started talking, I found out about how he had not yet removed a girl that I could tell had a crush on him. He kept telling me that because she had a tough home life he was trying to find her someone else to help her before he removes her, in which I understood. When he finally decided to tell her that he was speaking to me now, btw she knew who I was but we just weren’t friends, she THEN decided to confess to him. Then he replied and within the rest of their conversation he told her that he was ‘unsure’ about me.

He ended up removing her supposedly and promised to do better and it seemed like he did for a while but we kept getting into arguments about how he always feels so much pressure. He did buy me things usually whenever he happened to have money which I really appreciated, but recently he ran out of money and he did spend some of it on charity as I asked for proof but when he did donate to charity it wasn’t a significant enough amount to run out of money. I checked the total that he spent on games, me and himself as well and all of the payments he showed me did not add up to everything he earned. Now, I understand this was too direct and not strategic but I straight up asked him if he’s spending money on any other girls/women. That’s when he wrote me paragraphs about how he was hurt that I didn’t trust him and things like that, that the language I was using was extremely foul and that I was interrogating him. In terms of the language I used when I was questioning him and super heated, I’ll be absolutely real I used some rude words in there like when I said ‘don’t fucking lie’ and ‘annoying asf’ which was pretty toxic.

For further context, he used to be fully open to me seeing any of his messages on any apps but a few months ago he said that I can’t see his discord messages because of a sin of his but that the sin had nothing to do with other girls/women. Like come on.

Ever since we had the conversation about where the rest of his money went, he ghosted me for 3 days and to be fair he is currently physically sick but not to the point of hospitalisation or anything and we used to speak often in previous times of sickness on both ends so he was definitely capable of saying even something simple as a message. Thing is, he has never ignored me for more than 1 day before so I was worried that maybe his sickness was genuinely worsening so after the 3rd day I sent polite messages to his mother hoping her a day as lovely as herself and asking her if he has been feeling any better becayse I was worried about him. She told me that he was practising driving and looking for a job but after he found out that I messaged his mother (he gave her number to me btw and even asked me to message her so that she could know about me in the first place and the only time I’ve messaged her on my own is in the most recent conversation), he told me that he wasn’t actually practising driving at the time or working due to his physical sickness and that his mother likely wanted to comfort me with her words and then he broke up with me all over text. He said that for the past few nights he had been feeling so hurt and that we can’t have a relationship built on suspicion and that the foul language I used was unacceptable.

I used to find him so pure, patient, understanding and funny. When we started speaking I instantly removed other boys (friends) from my socials out of respect for him because at that time I saw him as a someone I really respected in terms of morals and since we were both apparently aiming for something serious. I rejected a boy who offered me 22ct gold jewellery and dates because he told me that if I ever spoke to another boy he would never speak to me again. However, he was also the one who said that we were both single until married which I agreed with but he said that ‘we’ are still not allowed to speak to anyone else because ‘we’ have feelings for each other.

Other than the title, what are your thoughts? Do you think he found someone else less high maintenance? Or do you think he was genuinely hurt.

All I know is that the communication was terrible as of late.