why are men so desperate

hey i'm not talking about all men and all women , so the thing is current dating scenario of nepal is so bad almost makes me puke maybe its also because i personally find it weird. My bf and I got into relationship gradually not yesto date garam bhanera and we have 1 year of age gap, same batch same everything. He has male cousins who are older than him and they have dated many women aba currently chai there's this one dada, he's earning really good and he recently got a gf,aba that gf is my bf's age almost 6 7 yrs of age gap btwn the couple and that girl has no aspirations, that dada pays her salon,spa bills (seen afnai aakha le), gifted her iphone, all that girl does is uses his money to afford her lifestyle and shes a drunkard too,straight up says stuff like i got boys lining up for me,laughs at him during serious situation.She has no job, currently preparing for loksewa or something and she was also comparing me to herself (i'm pursuing a degree that has high regard and i excel in that+many other skills in creative field so they were gungan gaying of me). And next dada so he's around 23 and dating a girl around 18 so 5 years of age gap is really weird to me, aru ta they just started dating so idk much but the age gap just throws me off. Girls are just leeching off of men older than them and men are desperate to make girlfriends no matter any disrespect. Please both men and women yeso look at quality other than looks.