Should I (20 F) drop out of university?
Hello everyone. I’m new and have been thinking of this constantly to the point where I wanted an outside and unbiased opinion and advice on this too.
A bit of context: I (20 f) leave been living in Italy for the past 8 years. I am from Albania and so are my parents and we had a really rough start.
Anyway in June I finished my first year of university giving an exam that was important and still have to give 5 or 6 others. After giving the important exam I started studying for the others but I was unable to concentrate. Ever since I finished high school I feel like I’m in total burnout.
When I chose the university I did it really fast since time was running out. I chose languages since it is something I’m really good at and love. But ever since I started it I don’t feel that big love anyone. I feel like I’m studying just because I have to. And it’s not even studying since I’m failing at it. I also have realised that with a degree on languages the only jobs I could get (as far as i understand) are teacher or translator. And I do not like neither of them. Lately every time I think of it I just get anxious and sick.
I tried talking with my parents about it. But it seems they re unable to understand that yes I did study for the big exam but only because it was a subject I loved. They don’t understand how bad the university is making me feel. They’ve tried to guilt trip me to continue studying since they’ve sacrificed a lot and I’m being undeserving and putting everything they’ve done down. I don’t want them to feel like that and I also kind of either need to continue school or get a job for legal reasons (I read the rules and I think I can’t talk about them? I don’t know but I’m not saying anything just to be safe). I could also find a job in hotels since my high school was a professional one and I did hospitality. So I have a degree on that I guess?
I don’t know what I should do? should I drop out? I know that if I do that I will feel so much better physically and mentally but then I’ll feel guilty for my parents. What do i do? Please help me understand and thank you in advance.
Posted Aug 8, 2026, 5:26 PM UTC