getting rid of hope

its 3 months post break up of a one year healthy relationship, we ended on his terms as he wanted to focus on his future and figure out himself, i was heartbroken, but understood.

i would say I’m over the actual breakup, i’ve cried, vented, sang, talked to friends and all the rest, but what i cant seem to get rid of or fix you could say, is the hope of us finding our way back to each other, i have no intention of reaching out to him any time soon, and i doubt he does too. i’ve tried so many times to say to myself forget it we won’t get back together, but i feel it deeply that we will, its like i’m telling myself something i know deep down i don’t believe. i want to get rid of this as i feel like then i can truly recover and move on with my life.

does anyone have any advice on how they got over this hope? it feels like i’m gaslighting myself lol.