Tired of low effort husband

Husband and I (both 34) have been married for 5, dated for 1.5 and have been acquaintances/friends before that. Feel like he has really stopped caring about anything and everything.

1. He wants to go out every weekend, but will not plan anything. Either I will have to plan or he will sulk because we spent the weekend indoors.

2. His idea of a date is dinner cause he enjoys eating out. Never an activity or experience or movie, nothing. I have communicated so many times I'd like to go on a breakfast date, but he wakes up too late every weekend. (we don't have kids).

3. I have communicated that I love getting handwritten notes, but I never received any.

4. Will not cook for me unless I ask to. Says that he doesn't know what I will like.

5. Makes a fuss about cleaning, why to do, doesn't like when I point out its not done nicely. I do it myself again, it irritates him.

6. Refuses counselling outright.

7. Does not take any efforts in my hobbies or lifestyle but will be the first to sulk when I try to do something for myself.

8. No, he is not the breadwinner. We both are.

9. His work is worship to him and he barely sees that all of household jobs are falling on me. His equality stops at my paycheck.

I feel like he is really inconsiderate and not willing to put in any work at all and I have to carry both emotional and physical responsibility in this marriage. I feel like my needs are not adressed and I have been emotionally nullified for a long time. Which has obviously reflected in physical intimacy. I don't like his touch anymore, which makes him more angry and upset.

I don't really know what to do.

I cannot bring up all of this again, because honestly, I have tried and have been shut down every single time.

Not sure if I am looking for advice, validation or maybe just a rant. But for sure I feel super exhausted.

TLDR: Low effort husband is making my life filled with exhaustion and resentment.