Vicious Cycle of Life ((((((((((60 Years of sacrifice & power))))))))))

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At Birth

Both parents are extremely happy everyone is celebrating the father is distributing sweets and praising his wife

He is giving all his attention to his wife but when he went to his father to give him sweets his father starts telling him key Kam pe dehan do or beti ki Shaadi wagera key Liya jama Karna Shuru kr do

At 5

He is playing falls down the stairs and starts crying

The first thing he hears

Larkay rote nahi hain. Mard bano

At 10

Grocery and outside errands are put on his shoulders

He comes home tired one of the women in the house asks him to bring something

Mujhe XYZ la do

Main thak gaya hoon

Bahar ke kaam larkay hi karte hain

At 15

His father is distant while his mother shows him lots of love

He is obedient listens to her and does well in his studies

But the ideas he has about his future are still considered childish

He wants to pursue something different

Nahi jo hum keh rahe hain wohi karo

At 20

His father becomes ill and can no longer support the family like he used to

So he steps up

He starts earning alongside his studies to share in the expenses but trying to manage both means he can no longer give either his full attention

Then he falls for someone

He tries to tell her but because he has barely interacted with the opposite gender he fumbles

He gets labelled a harasser

And he becomes afraid of pursuing love ever again.

At 25

He is doing well in life but his father is now completely bedridden and retired

His sister gets married, and he contributes a huge chunk of his savings towards the wedding money he could have used to pursue some of his own dreams

Whenever relatives visit

Beta kitna kamate ho especially the uncs

Beta bare ho gaye ho Shaadi kab kar rahe ho especially the aunties

Sometimes he feels irritated when his father sits him down and starts giving him advice about life

At 30

He is financially stable and almost done with all his responsibilities

But somewhere inside he has developed resentment towards his father

He feels he had to sacrifice his dreams to fulfil responsibilities that were never supposed to be his alone

He also feels lonely

He can't openly share his thoughts or emotions because society has taught him

Mard ho tum

Larkiyan aisa sochti hain

Mardon ko strong rehna chahiye

So he decides to get married

After marriage he becomes a father to a baby girl

He is happy for his first child

But the people around him start behaving differently

At 35

He becomes a father to a boy

He is happy but stressed at the same time.

His wife is also happy

He praises her and distributes sweets

Then he goes to his father with sweets

His father says

Khush hona theek hai lekin ab zyada dhyan apne kaam par do Tumhari zimmedari barh gayi hai

At 40

This is probably the happiest period of his life

He has a complete family two children and a loving wife

He has also managed to save some money for his children's future

But in doing so he has sacrificed some of his own dreams

Because his children's future matters more to him than his own

At 45

Things are still going well

He loves his wife

His children are growing up well and are obedient

He is financially stable

But problems are brewing inside the house

His mother and wife constantly fight

He doesn't know whose side to take but since he has his own family now he naturally becomes more inclined towards his wife

Then something happens

Someone teases his daughter while she is returning from school

And instead of addressing the person who harassed her people around him start saying:

Usay ghar ke kaam sikhao

Jaldi shaadi kar do

Kahin kuch aur na ho jaye

At 50

He becomes ill

His financial capabilities decline

But now his children are grown up

And whenever relatives visit they say

Beti aapki kaafi bari ho gayi hai Shaadi kab kar rahe hain iski

The constant pressure starts getting to him

So he begins searching for a suitable groom for his daughter

At 55

His illness has worsened

But he still does whatever he can

Meanwhile his son starts stepping up and sharing the family's expenses.

He is happy bcz

His daughter is also getting married and he believes he has found the perfect groom for her

At 60

He is retired ill and no longer capable of earning

But his son has established himself and is now taking care of everything

Yet he can sense something in his son

Resentment

The same resentment he once carried towards his own father

His son feels that his father's circumstances forced him to sacrifice his dreams

And his father unable to compensate for the past starts giving him advice about life.

Beta meri tarah ghaltiyan mat karna

Apne future ka sochna

Zindagi mein ye cheezen zaroor karna

He thinks he is helping his son avoid the mistakes he made

But suddenly

he finds himself on the other side of the exact same cycle

The child he once tried to protect from the world is now carrying the consequences of the same expectations that were placed on him

And the cycle continues