This is abuse, correct?

This is abuse correct?

Grabbed me by my sweatshirt / shoulders and shook me and screamed in my face in the middle of an argument.

Blocked doorways

Took covers off of me multiple times during argument because I was not engaging and trying to go to sleep or just be to myself.

Would always force me to resolve things or argue with me when I needed space

Screamed at top of lungs at me

Kicked me out of vehicle and told me to walk home

Sped in car when angry

Would start fights in car specifically

Called me all types of names

Threw cardboard box past me

Punched couch next to my head

Punched my closet

Pushed me

Grabbed and twisted my wrists to get my phone from me

Would not give my phone back

Called my brother and did a whole smear campaign on me in front of him

I was sick for an entire year dealing with chronic illness and surgery and he had to pick up slack around household. Which consisted of him doing his own laundry, he also did mine out of courtesy but he was not expected to. Cook meals for himself, also cooked for me sometimes but he was not expected to. He did take me to every single appointment while working night and day shifts. He had 4 days off and took me on those days mostly. But he would also sometimes take me on days where he had a shift. I understand it was not his job, but he offered and I was pretty ill so I was more comfortable riding with my fiance/husband rather than ubering a ton. But then he threw it all in my face later about how I’m a burden. He dealt with my anxiety and mood swings from the chronic pain and stuff (I was also being emotionally abused by him during this time in my opinion so it didn’t help my moods) he dealt with my diet restrictions and new symptoms that would come up.

Other than that, there was truly nothing I was doing on my end. I was in survival mode just trying to figure my health out completely drained in all ways and I thought I could lean on him, but it turns out that was my biggest mistake.

He claims I abandoned him and that I made him feel alone and like he had to beg to be loved and beg for sex.

Meanwhile, he was rushing my health issues to be figured out. He just wanted me to return to “old me” he was irritated by all of the changes. At first, he didn’t even believe me. It wasn’t until diagnosis’s and surgery was scheduled that he did. He pressured me for sex in the way of like he’d ask for it and if I was not feeling ok or in pain I’d express that and he’d throw a tantrum and say that he always has to beg for it and that regular normal women don’t act this way with their men.

He’d always say I’m not a wife or a woman.
Because I didn’t initiate sex during that time or cook.

Sorry these were my last concerns. He is a grown man that can go into a kitchen and get food. I stocked the house with food every week that I paid for all by myself for two of us. His excuse was the food was mostly for me and my diet restrictions so he wasn’t going to pay. Yet I bought my stuff which isn’t cheap AND then regular food for him.

Hid debt from me during our marriage, but since we had separate finances he believed it was not my business. But then needed my help to pay his half of the mortgage and utilities (only $753 a month)

I owned the home. But he told me he would not be contributing as a fiancé or husband for house repairs or labor because he was building my equity and getting nothing out of it.

He tells me none of this is abuse because he didn’t beat me and that I’m playing victim. And that I’m the person who is wrong because of how I was when I wasn’t well and that it’s so convenient that I have that as an “excuse”

In the beginning, he was an amazing sweet kind loving person to me. Very caring, put me first, always kept his word and showed up for me. But when life got real, everything changed and I saw his true colors. He thinks because he did all this good, that the stuff that I’m mentioning here does not count.

By the way, we are divorced now but he keeps trying to Leo contact with me and I just can’t understand how he doesn’t see how shitty he is. There’s more but I can’t remember.
I was abused here? Or am I wrong?