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I am 25 (F), and l am sharing my story because I recently discovered that my long-term partner, Anvit Jaykar (a software engineer in Hyderabad/ Salestorce), has been living a complete double life. Despite playing the a    
role of the ultimate devoted boyfriend for    
over three years, he was secretly sexting, hiding    
multiple women, and cheating on me behind my back the entire time.    
He even admitted that he has serial-cheated on every single girlfriend he has ever had while maintaining a flawless "nice guy" facade.    
Please beware of him if you cross paths with him on dating apps, and always trust your    
intuition because once a cheater, always a cheater.

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Hello,

I'm 25 (F), currently living in Delhi. I lived in Hyderabad for 4.5    
years because of college (NIFT Hyderabad) and work. During the last    
semester of college (Jan 2023), I met this guy called Anvit Jaykar, who's originally from Maharashtra but had been living in Hyderabad    
since August 2022 because of work. He's a software engineer currently    
working in Hyderabad.

We matched on Bumble, met for our first date in mid-January 2023, and    
connected instantly. I knew instantly that this guy had fallen for me    
on the first date itself, not because I think too highly of myself, but    
because it was obvious. We ended up talking through the entire night,    
and when we parted the next morning, it was obvious that this was    
something special.

Two days later, he told me he had deleted Bumble because he wanted to    
pursue me seriously. I did too.

After our first date, we basically started living together, mostly at    
his place, and spent every free second of our lives together. My last    
semester was pretty hectic, so I'd end up spending a lot of my time in    
college, but apart from that, we made sure we were together.

Everything was great until about a month later, when I started facing    
recurring UTIs. I didn't think much of it at first and went to the    
doctor, got some medicines, and moved on. But the infections    
persisted. Long story short, it took me six months to become    
infection-free and another 2–3 months to get over the PTSD of    
constantly dealing with UTIs.

This guy never left my side. He told me he'd wait for me until I was    
ready to be intimate again. After 8–9 months, everything was good    
again. He was the sweetest guy ever. In between, I even tried to break    
up with him because I thought he didn't deserve to go through all of    
this, but his patience made me fall for him even more.

After almost a year of living together and going through so much    
together, we were pretty strong as a couple, and I decided to move to    
Delhi for a career opportunity. He'd visit me every month while    
working from home, and somehow we cracked long distance too.

I'd always think that I had really lucked out in the relationship    
department because I'd found a guy who practically kissed the ground I    
walked on. Even after 3.5 years together, he'd still make me feel    
special, take care of me, and call me beautiful at least 50 times a    
day. Whenever I was with him, I never felt like he had wandering eyes    
or checked out other girls. To me, he was the sweetest boy ever.

Cut to: 31st May 2026.

We had just come back from an international trip, and four days later    
I received the classic "Hey girlie" text from a random girl asking if    
I was dating Anvit.

Me being me, I actually thought this would be funny because I was so    
sure there had to be some misunderstanding on her side. I didn't doubt    
Anvit for even a nanosecond.

She told me she was his ex from school and wanted to tell me    
something. I immediately called him, told him about the message, and    
asked what I should expect. Mind you, both of us were laughing about    
the situation. He told me I could have fun with her because he'd done    
nothing wrong, except texting her a few days ago to ask how her life    
was going. (He was so sure she didn’t have any evidence)

She then sent me a few questionable screenshots, which I'll attach    
here. I even got on a call with her and screen-recorded their entire    
chat.

Basically, this guy had slipped into her DMs in January 2025,    
wished her Happy New Year, and then started flirting and sexting. It    
got to the point where he proposed visiting Pune to have sex with her.    
They continued talking day and night for about ten days until he    
eventually backed out of the Pune plan.

All of this happened while we were planning our Mumbai trip for    
Coldplay in mid-January 2025.

The reason she came and told me now was because right after coming from our trip, he started texting her on Snapchat again.

When I found out about those conversations, I had a full-blown panic    
attack. I couldn't breathe. This man had never once given me a reason    
to doubt him, and suddenly I was seeing a completely different side of    
him.

I immediately ended the relationship.

When I told my friends and family, none of them could believe it    
because he had done such a good job pretending to be the perfect    
boyfriend. Everyone was completely shocked.

Later, when I checked my chats with him from that same time period, I    
realised that there was a point where he had literally been sexting    
both of us at the same time.

I spent the entire months of June and July, questioning    
everything, feeling confused, but being sure of one thing, that there    
had to be more girls, and I was convinced he'd slept with other women    
too.

Somewhere around mid-June, I got on a call with him, where he admitted    
there were indeed multiple girls he'd been sexting ever since we    
started dating. He'd chat with them, then delete the conversations.    
Most of them were old Bumble matches or past hookups, which is why I    
never found out.

Every time he'd post a story with me, he'd make sure those girls were    
hidden from seeing it so they'd never know I existed.

Meanwhile, he manipulated and gaslighted me into believing that if I    
ever even texted an ex saying "hey," I'd be the one at fault, just so    
he could always stay on some imaginary moral high ground.

After finding out about the multiple girls, I stopped talking to him    
completely and blocked him everywhere.

That didn't stop him.

He somehow managed to message me on every app imaginable while still    
having the audacity to ask me to get back together with him, email    
spam, LinkedIn, Pinterest, Google Pay... literally everywhere.

Only after I strictly told him I'd report him did he finally stop.

We stayed in no contact for more than 10 days before I relapsed    
emotionally. I took leave from work and spent 3–4 days  talking to him on calls    
with him while desperately asking him to finally admit whether he'd    
actually slept with other women.

I needed to know the whole truth.

Finally, before deleting our chats and his number forever, I asked him    
one last time if he'd slept with anyone while we were together.

That's when he finally confessed to at least one incident.

Apparently, just five months into our relationship, when we were    
spending every night together, he had told me an "old friend"    
was visiting Hyderabad and needed a place to stay.

For some reason, maybe beacuse of college work that night, I couldn't    
stay over at his place. He assured me he'd sleep on the sofa in the    
hall while she'd sleep in the bedroom, and that she was just an old    
college friend who needed help.

Of course I believed him. I didn't think twice because I've had    
friends stay over too.

Now he confessed that they actually had sex.

She wasn't an old friend at all. She was an old Bumble match he'd    
never even met before, who needed a place to stay.

So when he agreed to host her, he knew exactly what he was doing.

Looking back now, thinking about all the infections I was dealing    
with, I never once doubted him. Looking back now, its obvious the    
reason why I was getting so many infections was because he was    
sleeping around. He has only confessed to one incident, but    
considering it took him one and a half months to admit even that, and    
given how big of a liar he is, I still believe there was much more    
that he hasn't admitted.

Why am I exposing him here?

I genuinely feel this guy has serious issues. He also admitted that he    
has cheated on every girlfriend he's ever had. I had absolutely no    
idea about that until I caught him cheating on me.

The reason he's always cheated is because he's always gotten away with    
it. This time, I genuinely believe he should be held accountable for    
his actions like anyone else. (Even Dharmendra Pradhan has taken    
accountability and resigned!!!)

This is to any girl in Hyderabad, if he isn't already back on the    
dating apps, he soon will be.

Please beware of this guy. He'll make you believe you're the only    
woman in his life. He'll make you feel like you're the most special    
person in the world while living a completely different life behind    
your back.

Once a cheater, always a cheater.

And to anyone thinking I was naive for never seeing this coming, I    
promise you, he was just that good at pretending. There was genuinely    
no way I could have known.

When I was dating this guy, even though everything was perfect on    
paper, I always had this weird intuition that he wasn't the one for    
me. That feeling stayed with me even after being with him for so many    
years. I could never figure out why because I knew I loved him so    
much.

But now, looking back, maybe my intuition was trying to tell me that    
there was something seriously wrong with him.

So girls, always listen to your intuition.

And I'm super grateful to God because I found out the truth when I    
did. I got saved from wasting any more years of my life with him, or    
even worse, marrying him.

beware of this cheater guy