Believer married to a Non-Believer

Hello, not sure what I am searching for here, maybe just for some advice from anyone who has been in a similar situation. I am a 36 year old female married to a 38 year old man and we have two small children, both under the age of 4. We have been together since we were 22 and 24 years old. In the span of almost 15 years, I have changed and have gotten much closer to God and made God the top priority in my life, my husband has not done the same. Recently, I have started brining my children to church by myself, while my husband typically lays in bed watching T.V. It's very disheartening seeing other families go to church as a family unit while I am by myself with my two children. My husband views church as a complete waste of time, God is not the top priority in his life or a priority at all, and his priorities are much different than mine. He spends a lot of time working and a lot of time with his friends, without his family. We have gotten into arguments about God and his priorities in life. I try my hardest not to force my believes on him because I do think it should be a personal choice and when we got married I certainly was not living for God, so it's not my place to be judgmental since God has been patient with me and given me so much grace. I have prayed to God about softening my husband's heart and opening his eyes to the truth. My grievance is not with God. I know that God is perfect, unchanging, patient, and all knowing. I am trying to be patient but I am human and I am flawed. I guess my biggest concern is when my children are old enough to realize what is going on and ask me why their Dad does not come to church with us or pray or view God as important. Do I just continue to pray for him? I feel like I could be doing more. I don't want to be a "nagging wife" because I know that will do me more harm than good. I just wish he would stop sleeping at the wheel and wake up and realize what is important in life before it is too late.

Posted Aug 10, 2026, 4:23 PM UTC

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