Tired of Husband’s Comments

Not sure if I just need to vent or what, but I am so over this situation.

Some background: I have worked at this company for over 4 years. It has been the best job I have ever had, great company, great coworkers, great boss. Literally cannot complain. My previous job was awful, boss was constantly making passes at me so this was a nice change. A little over 2 years ago I had my first baby. While on maternity leave my boss and his wife wanted to drop off dinner. I gave them our address and let them know a good time. They come by with lasagna, I invited them in to see baby, they stayed maybe 10 minutes and left. It was nice. Ever since then my husband makes comments insinuating that I am fucking my boss. They have gotten increasingly blatant and annoying. Think “how was getting railed after work?” type of comments as soon as you get home with the kids.

I drop both our kids off at daycare, go to work, pick up both kids, head home. It takes me maybe 15 minutes to get to work from our house, daycare is close so about 20-25 minutes from the time I leave the house til when I get to work. I am salary so I don’t clock in, and my boss is pretty chill about being <10 minutes late as long as you are getting all your work done. It takes me much longer to get home because of traffic. Everyone is leaving at the same time, line at the lights is long, less of a rush during pick up, overall it could take me like 35-45 minutes to get home depending on the day.

Fast forward to today. I swapped my WFH days this week. My phone has an alarm schedule and I forgot to swap the days on the schedule so I woke up LATE. Toddler was cooperating very well with my rushing everything and I ended up being 15 minutes late to work. Husband texts me about 30 after I get to work and is giving grief about being late and arguing with me about how long it takes to get to work. Blatantly saying that if I left at 6:55 and was at work 15 minutes late then I’m lying about when I leave work to come home. Saying that screwing my boss is the only reason I haven’t been fired for being late (like 5ish minutes late, albeit more often than I should be). I am not screwing my boss. I am just good/efficient at my job, I don’t miss meetings, I don’t miss deadlines, I do what’s asked of me, so he doesn’t micromanage my time.

I just want to not be stressed about coming home every day!! Am I being too sensitive about this? I’ve tried to just ignore his comments to see if the reaction is whet he’s looking for but it has made no difference. He is a great dad and overall great husband. But this one thing is about to drive me crazy.