Abusive spouse turns kids against me, need help.

I’m finally reaching out for help any advice, anyone to talk to. Have been in a terrible marriage for 25 years. Realized he was physically and verbally abusive only after I had my first child and I was trapped or I perceived myself that way. I am a sweet nice, smart, kind warm person. Never had problems with people. I would never hurt anyone. I can sometimes be naïve about things. And it seems I have very bad luck. It has been years and I’ve tried to get out and it keeps failing either for money or worrying about the kids when they were younger, not wanting them torn in this situation. I was always the successful one with great career which is over, and savings that he took. Marriage counselor called him a malignant narcissist. He is a controlling, crafty liar. Now the kids are older and somehow he has turned them against me. I would’ve thought they’d be smarter. My daughters are openly hateful to me. Baseless. They just quote him. I need help and wish I had a caring friend to rescue me. Daughters are vicious with me now irrational and accusatory, and always siding with a man who they saw hitting me who they pulled off of me in the past. And now they have no problem saying terrible things to me. Unfair and completely untrue accusations that leave me gasping with shock and crying. They act totally devoted to him. I can’t go to my grave like this I need to get out. I don’t have anyone I can go to, not one person. I don’t know how that happened but everyone I deal with thinks highly of me and yet I have no one I can reach out to. I know that he has turned people against me with lies. Only one person once confided in me that he contacted him with some obvious fabrication. That’s why I’m here. I need help and I don’t know what to do. I am constantly being gaslighted and told that I am doing things that I am not doing and there’s a double standard in the household where anyone else can say whatever they want but if I say anything, not even talking contentious, I get jumped on because I am the enemy. Now that I realize that I’m playing this insane role he has created, I am committed to getting out, but I really need some kind of support. I am emotionally broken, and my strength has been sapped. Any ideas or support or advice would be appreciated.