Dead Bedroom but everything else is GREAT

So we have sex MAYBE once a month at MOST. I know February, April and July were bone dry. Sex, if it happens has to be initiated by her because if I initiate it never happens.

HOWEVER we are close. We own a business together so we are around each other almost 24/7
We laugh. We cut up. We kiss! But no sex. I think we have a great marriage but our sex life is non-existent!

I don’t get it. Am I that unattractive? Am I that bad at sex?! Why is everything outside the bedroom great but sex is absent?!

We’ve talked and she said she knows she doesn’t initiate and that it’s a long time between. But nothing changes. When we met we had sex everywhere and all the time. For years then it seemed to stop suddenly. I can almost tell you the date actually.

I just don’t get jt.