Husbands parents continue to blame me for ruining their family

Original post: https://www.reddit.com/r/inlaws/s/GxXPcILM0h

My husbands parents continue to have an issue with me, and we’ve been fighting back and forth for 8 months.

Following Christmas and his parents outbursts about how I am basically an awful person, his mother has screamed about how I am no longer welcome around anyone in HER family…you can imagine that went over well.

They continue to stand by the fact that because we didn’t let them see our daughter for 2 months because his dad had a weird unexplained infection, that it actually had nothing to do with the infection and everything to do with that I didn’t want them around. Which is wild because I invited them over to be the first people to meet our daughter when she was born.

Recently his father screamed at me over the phone saying things such as “I’ve ruining my husbands relationship with his family” “he’s not trying to say I’m the problem but their family was fine until I came along” “if I’m looking for apologies and accountability I’ll just never get it from them they did nothing wrong” among other things. They even go as far as to justify their points because I didn’t want to hang out with them while I was pregnant and when they offered to help with certain things I declined.

We’re really in a hard place here because my husband still wants to have contact with his parents but I now refuse to speak to them, see them, and DO NOT want them around my daughter. They play the victim card saying things like “we are their whole world” and then insult me for 20 minutes straight but expect me to get over it so we can be a big happy family….yet don’t want to hear the damage they’ve caused not only to my new family but also my marriage.

I’ve decided to block their numbers and they will not be invited to my daughter’s birthday coming up. I feel guilty and like an asshole honestly because the rest of his extended family will be invited besides his parents and sister….but at this point Ive realized regardless of what I do ill always be blamed - so why not just start protecting my peace and my daughter.