Crossroads

I've posted here before and deleted because I felt bad towards the end....

Maybe I'll do the same this time, I don't know.

Moved in my my boyfriend of 3 years about 8 months ago, and it's been the longest 8months of my life, because he brought his mom.

So I'm latina, this is a normal occurrence for us, we live with our in-laws or they live with us, several generations under one roof. (This is a 2 family home, my parents live downstairs daughter boyfriend his mother and I live upstairs)

I CANNOT STAND HER, she's 76 years old, widow. Drug issues, relapsed a few months ago ( This is what my last post had been about, because I saw all the signs and boyfriend didn't believe me, until she finally told him)

She is a lazy slob, can't clean a dish, has never cooked a meal for the house, has yelled at me various times "What's for dinner?" "Just chicken?" "Am I supposed to grab my own plate?" Boyfriend thinks it's funny and she's just being a quirky old lady.

I hide some snacks for my daughter because this lady is a pot head that never leaves the house. She cannot see soda waters to refill in the fridge, but she can EASILY find my daughter's snacks or food I hide for myself ( I diet so I eat specific foods) She will easily eat a loaf of bread in one day and half pack of English muffins, that's all she eats, which I find absolutely inconsiderate. She'll eat all the ice cream, (even my special low sugar ice cream) EVERYTHING.

I've talked to my boyfriend about I feel like I'm a disturbance to their relationship because he's an enabler and I'll never be more than a maid/roommate because there is no consideration for my daughter and I.

I don't know what to do. I don't know if I should leave him because I can no longer live with her. She is not sick, she's just lazy. If she had an illness or couldn't take care of herself, I would have empathy but she can. My boyfriend and I never went away longer than 3 days because he's worried about her. Then in the beginning of the month she went away for 2 weeks with friends, I was DISTRAUGHT!!! Oh, so she can take a 2 week vacation but we can't go away for more than 3 days because then she'll manipulate the shit out of him???? She'll block him make him worried sick, she'll call him saying she broke her toe, he'll leave from work early take her to the ER, NOTHINGGGG!. Anytime I ask her to just help clean up after herself she'll start crying.

I don't know what to do. I love him, but I feel like? Did he do this on purpose? Did he think I was going to be his moms caretaker? Does he not respect me? Why doesn't he see how this is affecting me. He says he doesn't expect me to do anything but, we live together I'm here, I can't cook and not serve her, I can't NOT CLEAN.

I feel like this rant is getting long.