Feeling so anxious. What should I do ?

Like the title says, I feel so anxious. I feel my body tensing up with this plan. We are bringing LO tomorrow to hubby’s family and her mom‘s mom will be there. Shes not well and a lot of people said she might die soon. Shes not a nice lady, she does not speak english, she also had a lot of history bad mouthing people and lastly I noticed how privilege she can be. She always tell husband how “half” of the people on earth used to respect her. How her kids and other people used to cater her.

She has been in and out the hospital because shes not well. Husbands mom been asking us to bring LO so she can see him. And thats tomorrow. We have not yet brought LO around so many crowds yet. We are first time parents, our first precious baby so we try to take one step at a time. And husbands family is not waiting for us to be ready. I have been pressured by this, I constantly stress and tense up because it feels like my boundaries is not respected. Especially at times like this, I am still recovering and my emotions have been really sensitive.

I am trying to let husband understand that I dont feel comfortable but all he says is ”they will keep arguing with us..” “they dont have time to wait” and stuff. To me its tiring like why cant they understand, if I am not ready why cant they leave me alone and let me be with my child. Husband feels torn in between, he would constantly tell me, ”this is what his family is going to be, they will constantly do stuff like this and the only to stop it if we cut them off“ and he would proceed saying “do u want to be alone and away from everyone“. And to me I do want that, I want to have a peaceful life. And husband thinks like that is not possible. At some point he Is not helping either, hes not making it easier for me also.

Now since we are going there tomorrow, I have set some rules, “no kissing baby” , “no touching babies hands” as hes been putting his hands in his mouth a lot. And I do not feel comfortable for my baby being passed around. I only want me or dad can carry him. I told my husband that, and if his family doesnt like it. I am walking away.

Am I wrong to feel like this ? Am I being so uptight? How can I make tomorrow less stressful for me?