What to do to get out of an abusive situation?

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My(18f) mother has been very abusive to me physically, mentally and verbally. My father once hit my head 15 times continuously while my mother held me down. My mother has given me death threats(including saying she should've committed infanticide when she had me), threats to get me married, threats to disown me and what not.

I am in 2nd year uni. I have a long schedule, 8-7 sometimes. And I travel for around 3 hours. I come home around 8:45 after that I talk to my partner or study, both of these are non-negotiables for me. My parents aren't encouraging about me studying till 12. Yesterday I was awake around 11:20 pm. They came into my room and started yelling at me for not sleeping. I do not engage when they yell because I know pushing back only makes things worse for me.

My mother started commenting on my hair (I recently got a boyish cut p.s: the barber messed up), and that I look drunk (I don't drink) and that I do not behave like a woman. She called me a wh0re multiple times, slapped me, and taunted me with belt in her hand, threw around my bag, took out a bra that was lying around and asked me "What the f*ck is this?" multiple times. I know she only refrained herself from beating the hell out of me because I already complained about being abused to my college counsellor. Nothing changed afterall. She said she doesn't want me to study, said she should've put me in a government school and married me off by now. I'm 18 for f*cks sake woman.

They don't know about my relationship yet, they've been desperately trying to find out. My mother said she'll honour kill me if she finds out anything. She's psychotic and she might actually do that. I'm genuinely at loss. I hate it here and I want to feel safe for once.

I tried getting jobs so I can move into a cheap PG, but had no luck so far. Any job advices or support is welcome.

Posted Aug 12, 2026, 3:25 AM UTC

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