Our marriage feels like it is slipping away

My wife and I have been married since October 18, 2008…closing in on 17 years.

I’m 66 and she is 61. We were very happy, had amazing conversations and really seemed to be on the same page in life.

Over the past five years I can just sense this slow deterioration in our relationship. Much less supper and encouragement (mutually) and far more time criticizing one another.

The last two years have been particularly difficult as I had to undergo four shoulder surgeries (a long story all by itself) and a double bypass heart surgery. If that were not enough? I was already very low vision prior to the things but my vision has gotten much worse!

She has stayrd by my side and been an “angel from Heaven” through all of this, though it has taken a real toll on the closeness and intimacy we once shared.

It was an emotionally and physically draining time for both of us…but I feel especially bad for how it has changed her.

It seems like she has aged 0 years emotionally. We just don’t have the closeness we once shared.

Before anyone even suggests it, there is no other man or woman for either of us although I’ve thought about seeking out a female fried to tal to online just because I feel so lonely now.

I know that wouldn’t be helpful at all…and could potentially make things much worse if it turned into an emotional affair.

I want things that will restore our closeness and communication…both pull us further apart!

I want to restart having daily Bible reading and devotional time with her, but the gap is too big right now to even share that. I can’,t in honesty before the Lord, pray about what’s on my heart with her - SHE IS what’s on my heart!

Not sure what to do to try to rekindle our love and romance!