Would be open to reconnecting with someone after a few years (see situation below).

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A question for the INTJs. I'm leaving some details out of the story but the general situation was I met an INTJ a couple years ago (4 or 5 years ago to be precise) and we clicked with each other very well. We only knew each other for about half a year but both of us had a general sense of "this person understands me in a way no one else does". A lot of people considered us clones of each other because he had so many things in common from trivial things liking the same music to similar experiences growing up and a similar mindset/view of the world. We were also very close during this time, we'd stay up into the late hours of the night just talking to each other non-stop ranging from the most non-serious topics to the most serious ones.

Anyways we unfortunately grew distant and stopped interacting with each other (mostly because we got busier and busier). I also didn't have a stable way of contacting her after this. Fast forward to now after a couple years I was going through some of my old accounts and came across one of her long lost accounts with some recent activity from a few months ago. I messaged there giving her my email and phone number (since this would be most stable form of communication for the both of us) and said I would like to reconnect if she's open to it.

My question is if you came across that message, considering its been a few years since the last interaction, and that potentially since the account isn't monitored as frequently there's a chance she sees the message say 3 years (~2029) from now. Would you considering reaching out? At the very least sending a short and simple message like "Hey, its me. I got your message. How's everything been?" Or would you simply let it be after that long of a time?

Posted Aug 12, 2026, 3:29 AM UTC

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