No matter what, only men are blamed

I believe Patriarchy imposes different chains and pains on both men and women, but I do agree the pain imposed on women is bigger. Yet, this subreddit can't comprehend a few facts::

1. Both men and women practice patriarchy. Like even Mother in Law is responsible for harassing bahu. Mother in Law herself is for Patri local residency. Yet, it's always men who are blamed

2. One more pattern I observe is:: Men are blamed for not being courageous enough to break the chains of Patriarchy. In terms of women, men are blamed again for the patriiarchal chains on a woman.