I hate when there's infighting in the trans community

I expressed liking the lesbian labrys flag and I don't think it means it's some sort of dogwhistling just because I expressed that but people accused me of being a TERF dogwhistling. I've never even seen TERFs use this flag and I feel like I would have because I argue with TERFy lesbians pretty often and advocate for us against them. Even if a few TERFy lesbians use this flag, like why does it suddenly make it a TERF flag? It was originally a lesbian feminist flag. I want to reclaim it if it's really that associated with TERFs and I didn't even know it had any TERFy association until a couple of days ago. It's fucking ridiculous for trans people to call one of their own a TERF and never give the benefit of the doubt. Like, I've advocated for us for a long time. Between this and other shitty ways I get treated, I genuinely am thinking of going stealth and just giving up my advocacy because apparently it gets you these kinda shitty accusations. And it's not the first time this has happened and there's been so much worse ways that even my local IRL trans community has treated me (came foward about a rapist and those friends I made ghosted me; the trans support group I attended decided to just become cold to me and make it clear I was unwelcome. I didn't let that stop me from trying to find community with other trans people. I took a step back but I came back to try hard with supporting us and being supported and it just was still bad) If people think I'm a TERF that badly despite believing in trans rights, even transition for kids, for us to be a protected class, for our rights to the gendered spaces for our identities, to be protected against discrimination, etc but despite all that people still call me a TERF. Sure, I am a radical feminist, but like, people seem to confuse that with TERFism. Like genuine radical feminists are opposed to TERFism, much like genuine socialists are opposed to national socialists. Like, just because it has socialist in the name doesn't make it so. Just because radical feminism is in the name, does it make it so and TERFs aren't radfems and they aren't allowed in radfem spaces. They're our enemies. Anyway, I'm tired. Like, I don't get treated nearly this badly by other communities I'm part of, like the lesbian community is understanding of my views, feminists are... it's literally just this community. I'm walking away from trans spaces because I don't deserve this treatment when I've done nothing but advocate for us. I'm sorry, I wish the best for us. I hope others step up for us because I can't do it anymore for a community that isn't on my side