Large male vs females

Question from a male practitioner. I am 205 lb and lean, 6 ft, three striped blue belt. I would love to get the perspective of females for rolling with someone like me. Especially when my opponent is about half my size. Normally if it's a white belt I will let them do whatever, but if you're wearing a blue belt or above i will make you work for it a bit more. I never want to go too hard, or too easy but I do find myself taking it rather light.

My question is, would you prefer I take it the same as if I was rolling with a male blue belt or should I tone it down a bit and let you work?