how to I tell my friend that they’re being abused.

hi uh idek how to type this out without rambling on and on but here I go lmao

im a teenager, one of my closest online friends is a year older. I’m Australian, they’re American, blah blah whatever. We’re close, the kind of close where we know the deepest most horrid traumas of one another and also tell each other weird shit like “I found a mint in my underwear” (true story btw)

anyway so, trying to stay anonymous while knowing they don’t even have any social media but we always talk about our mutually abusive families, abusive in different ways, past abuse, etc etc. Their family is disgusting. Like I can’t even put this into words, I went through some horrid shit but the things they tell me make me sick. They’re mildly suicidal, have panic attacks frequently, both parents are nicotine addicts and abusive in their own ways. theyre rich and don’t even realise it, the kinda rich where they can spend thousands in a day and not blink. Some smaller stories from their family life without going into too much detail: mom‘ smashed all their devices recently, they were the one to get in trouble for not having a phone to text their dad the next day. they can’t leave their room after 11pm, get screamed at for eating after 10pm, yelled at for not leaving their room for the day, gets yelled at for being OUT of their room throughout the day. got slapped across the face by a friend and then said it was a “small problem” and was confused when I got upset and asked if they were okay. tried to commit suicide and was then mocked for not swimming while on vacation with two broken legs. yelled at for defending themself against their blatantly abuse siblings. got mocked for being supposedly depressed while actively being depressed. exact words from them: “I like my mom more, she’s more fun. I’ve been having out with my dad less, he’s so rude and arrogant and physical. my mom is nice, even if she doesn’t like talking to me. (+ smth else I don’t remember)”. they tell me so often about getting yelled at all the time, having to sneak downstairs for any food because they end up sleeping all day from stress, getting yelled at for falling asleep during the day even when they’ve had 2 hours of sleep. expected to be okay with being blatantly attacked and thrown to the ground by their father because “dad is a bit rough and I’m the only one he actually wrestles with :/“. there’s so much more I won’t go into detail about for their privacy, some things I don’t remember (I have memory problems), or bc it’s too dark to type for me.

their favourite fucking phrase after telling me their abuse story of the day is “I love my parents tho” “I love my parent sm tho”. we’ve had multiple conversations about how abusive my family is, how abuse their family is, they have said multiple times about how they know they’re the least favourite while being basically beaten through body-slams for not playing with their sister at the beach. every time I explain in detail exactly what’s wrong with their family, it just gets me another avoidant “well I love them tho”. I can’t even say what I want to say to them because we talk on fucking Roblox (sue me, I’m a teenager and their family is “strict” (dude doesn’t even have youtube])