My relationship with Peter Modovi Modoli

I met peter online on kuknalim and I assumed that we both didn’t know each other’s identity in the beginning. It was so long ago not sure about the details but I do know that I did not reach out to him first. He stole my number from my cousin’s phone and wrote to me first. From what I always assumed we both had no issue with him being my brother’s friend. In fact, even my brother though initially apprehensive supported the relationship till reports of him being violent emerged.

He kept hidden from me for months of only phone texting and calls that he was already pursuing a relationship with someone else. When he finally told me, I tried ending it and that’s when he told me, he had left her for me. I clearly remember stating that he should be single for some time to figure out his goals but he insisted that he broke up for me and that I couldn’t leave him.

The first time we were sexually intimate also he forced me to by stating that he was already sexually active and if I didn’t give it to him, he would find it somewhere else. I had never been in a sexual relationship before and wasn’t keen on beginning one so soon.

Once the sexual relationship started, I started having attachment issues and also had pressure from my ex to start funding his lifestyle as he claimed his family didn’t provide him enough and his ex was sending him money every month.

The first time he got violent was a slap and things got progressively worse from there on. Slowly the demands for money and the violence based on my sexuality and moral conscience started, saying that his ex was sending him money, so I should now help him cos he broke up for me. When we were in a relationship Peter was unemployed and displayed no ambition and I was the one with a career and money coming in from home also as I was funding him too. He later got a job but was only being paid 4k and I was even buying him his clothes to wear.

So many incidents and the saga continued of me trying to leave him. He even moved 5 mins from my college to prevent me from distancing myself from him. I felt trapped for the entire time we were together and was seeking a clean break from him for years. I was being blackmailed both directly and emotionally the entire time. It’s when he started talking about marriage in late 2010 that I knew I had to free myself. He even started implying that my father should help him find a govt job in Nagaland as a marriage gift.

The defendant had started a smear campaign in fact even before we ended things, he was using that to control and force me to remain with him. I felt cornered but just praying he gets bored of me and moves on; I would even use small excuses to try and break up but to no avail. Finally, when he agreed to let me go, I thought maybe he would understand how kind I had been with him and how much I was willing to forgive and forget. He wrote to me when he got a job at Bloombury that I should consider marrying him cos now he would be more financially independent. That same year I disabled receiving messages from him when he wished me on birthday. ***A lot of abuse and violence and cohesive behavior has purposely been left out as the narrative would become too long.