Feeling guilty for not coming out

Hey guys,

Im a bisexual man. I am mainly attracted to women, id say for every man i find attractive theres about 10 women. Most men arent into men, and he obviously would have to find me attractive as well. So i estimate the chances of me being with a man are very low.

I work in a very heteronormative space with mainly men. and practice combat sports. Places that are notoriously unkind to queer people. I love my job and combat sports have always been my passion, so i don’t want to do anything that might hurt my experience doing those things when i most likely will not be in a queer relationship ever.

At the same time i do feel guilty about it. Not because im “misleading” everyone around me. But i feel a sense of guilt i am not as involved with the community. Its a privilege being seen as heteronormative and i feel like im doing the community a disservice for not wanting to lose that privilege. I do my best to keep homophobic people out of my life and i stand up for what i believe is right. But i don’t know if its enough.