Stop putting the person you love on a pedestal. Follow the checklist before you get attached to anyone.

\- Remove the romance part.

\- A crush, a person whom you like, someone you're attracted to, just see them as a normal human being.

\- Remove the fantasy reality.

\- Get them back on the ground. Don't put them on a pedestal at any cost.

\- Know that you just met them. Maybe you're just attracted to their physical looks, but you've watched so much rom-com shit that you're now thinking about them in fantasy.

\- Make data the god.

\- Base the person's value in your life on the basis of data.

\- Don't make any person superior just because you found them beautiful or pretty.

\- Remember that they're just as human as you.

\- Just like you, they fart, they shit, they have a past.

\- They have their own traumas, their own attachment style, their own people they associate themselves with.

\- They have their own priorities, goals, likes, dislikes, people they follow and 20+ bs going on their life.

\- Please actually take these things into account.

\- Don't let desperation make the decisions for you.

\- I know you're getting desperate.

\- Remember the priorities in your life and see if you're actually available for dating or not.

\- Does this person support your journey or misdirect it?

\- Start with friendship.

\- Get to know them in person.

\- Observe them.

\- See how they behave.

\- See how they communicate.

\- See what kind of person they actually are.

\- Don't judge too quickly.

\- You're currently getting data.

\- Don't create a whole personality for them in your head before you actually know them.

\- Give them a priority based on who they actually are.

\- Base the whole personality of the person on the basis of who they are.

\- Then give them a priority in your life accordingly.

\- And if the other person also does that, let the relationship develop naturally.

Hope this helps!

Edit: Thank you for such a good response, it was awesome to share it with you and make you guys think in a more objective/ rational sense. You can send me your problems I'd love to solve them.