From my view I see men understanding that "maybe he is autistic, maybe he is adhd" is letting them get away with acting as a toddler and men are writing it on their dating profile. 

I am not saying autistic doesnt exist and I am not saying mental health issues is not real. 

But it seems men found a new way to say "but but but I am just a clueless, unaware, fly by the seat of my pants, easily distracted wittle man " and now says he is autistic to pre empitively get away with poor behavior. 

But But But I am just autistic.

Infantilizing grown men and letting them participate in weaponized incompetence is not the answer. 

Men know how to plan, they do it all the time for work. 

They schedule entire leagues of fantasy football and draft parties for NFL.  

They book guys golf trips weeks in advance. 

Men know how to date too. 

And if he does not it is not women's job to raise them or twist herself to tolerate his behavior. 

Finding a man as neutral is not the same as romantically desiring him and seeing him as someone you want to have access to you physically. A lot of men think the former is fine and women should want them sexually then. No. We do not. 

We want competent man, romance, flowers, to be thought of. That creates desire. 

If he is forgetful (see recent post about birthdays) then at these guys big age, he should know how he operates and set alarms, practice self awareness, write sticky notes do what it takes to operate as an adult.

 It is not women's job to gentle parent adult men. 

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