Ghosted and blocked by old friend after he asked to hang out?!

Two years ago, a friend of mine ended our friendship. I blocked him because I was upset about the way it ended. He said he outgrew me and that was like a blindside for me. Anyways fast forward to around fall last year. I remembered him and remembered our falling out. I guess I got nostalgic and sentimental then felt like me blocking him might’ve been too much. So I unblocked and requested to follow him. He accepted my follow request then followed me back. He liked a few of my posts and reached out to me. Then we started talking again occasionally.

He ended up asking me to meet up in person so we can catch up. I agreed and asked for his number so we can make plans. After giving me his number, I texted him and we were just small talking a few times. He told me he’s available sometime in April and I told him I’d be available too. About a week later I texted him again letting him know the exact week I’d be available so we can officially pick a date to meet up again. But he never responded. But he still followed me on insta and was posting. I thought to myself. Hmm maybe he’s just become too busy. I feel like he should’ve told me tho instead of leaving me hanging waiting for a response. At this point I was starting to have doubts about reconciling with him again. I just had a feeling he was going to end up disappointing me again. Then I noticed he deactivated his Instagram. Around the first month of summer. I wanted to text his number again but I felt like I wasn’t close enough to ask him if he’s okay.

So fast forward several weeks later which is last week. I noticed he reactivated his Instagram because I saw his profile picture was visible again in the DMs section. But turns out he removed me and unfollowed me… I’m not gonna lie that honestly hurt my feelings. I knows it sounds silly and juvenile to be upset over that but I’m an extremely sensitive person so it just felt like I was being hit by a truck. Like he literally was the one who initiated making plans just to ghost me then unfollow me without an explanation. He didn’t even have the decency to tell me he’s changed his mind about catching up. I had to find out by noticing he took me off his Instagram.

After processing what happened I decided to block him on Instagram again. Not because I’m mad at him. I just felt like this was the universe telling me I should’ve trusted my instincts and kept him blocked. At this point, he’s just my past and I don’t think people from my past should have access to me. And looking back at our old friendship, there were times I felt like he wasn’t a true friend. He can be judgmental and one of those people that weaponizes therapy talk to avoid accountability and it used to sometimes rub me the wrong way. For example, he always vented to me and I listened but when I wanted to vent to him, instead of reciprocating he dismissed me and judged me then said I need a therapist and he doesn’t want to listen to me talk about my issues. Even though I was a listening ear for him many times… But I had my faults too back then so I didn’t blame him for feeling like he outgrew me.

It still does sting a little when I remember. But anyways, I learned my lesson. No more dwelling on the past. I need to accept people for who they are and just let them go instead of hoping they change. I’m not mad at him anymore and I wish him well. We’re just incompatible as friends I guess. Maybe he had other things going on internally that I don’t know about. I’m trying not to overthink and over analyze every thing like i usually do to come up with a reason why he’d just ghost. I just don’t want him ever in my life again.