My (32M) wife (30F) wanted to wait until marriage for sex. Feeling a bit catfished.

My wife wanted to wait until marriage for sex — but our texting before the wedding was a totally different energy. Feeling a bit catfished.

Before we got married, my wife wanted to wait for sex, which I respected. But our texting in that period was flirtatious, playful, adventurous (sexting on Snapchat) — a very different person than who showed up after the wedding, where intimacy has been rare (some of it tied to a trauma history I won’t get into here).

I don’t think it was deliberate deception, but I can’t shake the feeling of having been sold something different from what I got. Has anyone dealt with this gap between the “waiting” version of a partner and the married version? How did you bring it up without it turning into an accusation?