[Advice Needed] Exiting Schengen via CPH with pending PT Residence Card (EU Spouse) - Risk of overstay ban?

TL;DR: Moved to Portugal in Sept '25 with my Norwegian spouse. Applied for PT EU-Spouse Residence Card (Article 15), which was accepted in May '26, but the physical card hasn't arrived. We are moving back to the US next week and flying out of CPH. Will Denmark flag me for a Schengen overstay and issue a ban, even with my PT application receipt and traveling with my EU spouse/children?

The Full Situation: This might be a niche scenario, but I’m hoping someone has recent experience or advice that can help me decide if I need to change our flights.

• Sept 2025: Moved to Portugal with my EU spouse and two small kids (all hold Norwegian passports).
• Nov 2025: My standard Schengen tourist visa expired.
• May 2026: After months of dealing with Portugal's notoriously slow immigration system, my paperwork for an Article 15 EU Spouse residence permit was finally accepted and submitted.
• Current Status: I still haven't received the physical card. It’s stressful, but seemed moot since we’ve decided to move back to the US anyway.

The Problem: Since we are moving back to the US, we had to go to Norway to collect some bags we left with family. Our return flight is next week: OSL ➔ CPH ➔ SFO.

This means Copenhagen (CPH) will be my first official exit from the Schengen zone since my tourist visa expired last November.

Because we are leaving permanently and I have the official documentation from the PT immigration office proving my application has been in process since May, I mistakenly assumed I’d be fine. However, reading posts here has me terrified that CPH border control will flag me as an overstayer.

I know Portuguese border agents are understanding of the massive AIMA backlog, but Danish agents aren't required to honor a PT receipt.

My Questions:

1. Has anyone navigated a non-PT Schengen exit with pending Portuguese residence paperwork recently?
2. Does traveling with my EU (Norwegian) spouse protect me from a ban?
3. Should I eat the massive cost to change our flights so Lisbon is our exit airport?

Given that our family is in Norway, avoiding a multi-year ban is crucial so we can visit them next year. Getting held up at CPH and missing our connection with two small kids would also be a nightmare. Any advice is hugely appreciated!