I (18F) found porn in my boyfriend (18M) phone. Can I fix this?

I’ll keep this short, me and my boyfriend have been dating for just nearly a year now, I went through his phone 3 days ago as I often do. I thought for some reason to finally check Reddit. I looked in his recently watched all porn. All of it. Not just porn but a certain type I had no idea he was interested in. I looked in his screen time and it was recent I’m talking 7/14 days… there were times he would wait for me to fall asleep on FaceTime to watch it. There were times he would go home from my house and watch it. I sent him pictures and videos as he suggested and I wanted to provide that for him. He never used any of them they just sat in a hidden folder on his phone. He was the one to state porn was wrong and considered cheating in a relationship, he said he stopped for the first couple months of our relationship but gram started and hasn’t stopped since. We talked about it so many times and he sat and lied to my face. I never once suspected anything. There were times were we’d have intercorse for hours and he couldn’t finish. I would cry to him tell him how I felt it’s my fault. He knew what the real reason was and let me cry in his arms. I don’t even think he could get off to having inter course that doesn’t include element of what he was watching. He says that’s not true but I don’t believe him. On top of that he told this guy at his work and now he’s telling everyone and they’re making fun of him and I can’t help but to think they’re laughable ng at me a bit too. I feel so embarrassed, worthless, and stupid. He keeps telling me it’ll never happen again and he didn’t think of how badly it would affect me but I feel if I never found out it would have never stopped. Evertime I look at him it’s all I see and I can’t even stand him touching me anymore. I love him so much and I really thought this relationship would work. I know it sounds stupid but everything before this was perfect, we were gonna move in together and we see eachother everyday. I’ve never felt more lost. So do you think we can fix this? Do you think I can get past this?

Posted Aug 12, 2026, 8:23 PM UTC

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