A resource for those of us who are currently married with kids

If that’s you in the title, know that you are in good company. I thought I was totally alone when I started this internal journey, but that is FAR from the case. I promise you that this post is not an ad or a promotion, just a recommendation from a fellow late bloomer who has been desperate for clarity on how to move forward. This community has been so important to me as I lurk and listen to your stories, and I want to give back 💜

As I’ve explored late blooming more and more, my Instagram algorithm has really adjusted itself, and it eventually fed me a post from a woman named Emily Bettdur. She’s a late bloomer who was married to man and had a son when she realized she was a lesbian. They divorced and were able to figure out coparenting really well, and now she’s been married to her wife for four years. Now, she does coaching for women in similar situations. Her business account is called The Late Life Lesbian, but I reached out to her personal account (I’ll list both usernames at the end).

She offers four free Zoom meetings to talk through things with you, and after that, you can decide if you want to pay for additional sessions and resources where she’ll walk you through the process of separation, divorce, etc., if that’s what you decide is the path you want to pursue. The four free sessions are amazing. She has so much empathy and wisdom, and I walked away from the experience feeling so affirmed and confident. She even helped me plan how to come out to my husband (jury’s out on how that goes…I’ve not taken the leap just yet but it’s imminent).

I personally have to stop at the four freebies because I can’t afford the full program (especially with a divorce and complete overhaul of life-as-I-know-it looming). But those four free sessions have absolutely been a godsend. I know she’s not the only coach out there, but I can tell you from firsthand experience that she is amazing.

Hope this helps at least someone else on this sub💜

Here’s her Instagram info:
emilybettdur
thelatelifelesbian