Therapy to increase likability in romantic relationships

Hi all,
This is all new to me and I’m just struggling to understand where to start in therapy. I feel like I am very solutions focused and I’m not sure talk therapy was really helpful to me now that I am reflecting on it. I’ve read about somatic therapy helping some of these traits but I truly can’t understand the actual mechanism on how that healing occurs. My main goal is to be a more palatable romantic partner. What has worked for you?

Issues I know I need to fix/work on:
Bluntness/b&w thinking ..which I think greatly impacts my ability to be feminine and docile/delicate
Being able to be sexy and initiate sex especially when I’m not “in the mood”
Not getting overwhelmed by loud sounds/situations
Over expressing about my interests to my partner or extreme exuberance (especially happens in the morning)

Let me know if you have seen improvements in any of these traits through specific therapy or even medication